Author: diane101

Hi, I am putting this up since it looks like you need a new one after this stupendous day of FBc’s.

Froggy Bottom Cafe Welcome newcomers! Please introduce yourself Come on in! Coffee & Tea under the window, platters of treats on every table Newspapers are in their regular spot next to the door Please recommend (and unrecommend the Cafe/Lounge from yesterday) May the 4’s be with you Froggy Bottom Photography Fair

Our South Seas Adventure pictures courtesy of Paul Gauguin and in honor of our very own Secondnature who has written this very excellent diary Here’s your stinkin community.

I think we might need a new name for “flame wars” here as they aren’t true flame wars.,,,,because still only 4’s are given, even in the most contentious diaries, except of course for our lovely troll bill .
I am hoping the site has settled down now, it was such a roller coaster with many highs and lows these last few days.
So difficult when friends are fighting and you may agree on some points with both sides, but now you can’t say them cause you will be dragged into the fight and called siding.  If you try to intervene, better choose your words carefully or they can be taken wrong by one or the other or look over your shoulder a new attack from the right flank.
Seems like we are trying to create here is intellectual debate, mostly based on personal views about many different subjects, or personal perceptions about world events, and then the next thing you know it becomes about my facts versus your facts, my knowing vs your knowing, my writing vs your writing and then me vs you.  
And what is resolved in the end, not much, in fact people get hurt, people get angry, people feel put off from even posting anything on the subject lest you may attract one or more of the fighting factions and then boom you are in it too.
So what I am thinking right now is that when you fight you are ruining the experience for the rest of us, we can be all jolly after leaving the cafe and amble by a diary with an interesting topic, settle in to read, hmmmm, scroll down the comments, oh nice comment, give a 4,  good discussion going here, what’s next, rubbing hands, next comment, oh dear X is mad at J for what, now let me see, and you go back and read previous comment and what I don’t get that here, so you go back and read the diary and still no, I don’t get that here, then back down to the comments, what did I miss, look at the next and next and oh what fighting going on all the way down.
You make a choice then, leave a diary that might have been good and fun or innformative, but now you are turned off.  Others will see the fight and say well I like what he said, so I’ll jump in and add another bat to this fight, back and forth they go, batters coming in, getting out, then a peacemaker may come along, or it may be you if you are very brave and trys to lay some gentle calming on the situation.  Boom next thing you know, the peacemaker is attacked.  

Wecome to the FBC~french Cafe, please dress for the occasion.  Come in and join us!
Luscious food and drinks are awaiting within!