curses from Liberal Street Fighter
It is often pointed out to me that I am … harsh, abrasive, intense, profane, intemperate … rude. In fact, you will hear many people compaining about the decline of civility in general in our society today. There is, of course, some truth in that observation, but in many ways it is a huge LIE.
The plain fact is that civility is a one-way street in this country. If you are poor, powerless, gay, a woman … if perhaps you believe that religion is dangerous or that business SHOULDN’T be the “business” of America, then you are expected to remain quiet, respectful, temperate, quiet-mannered … to get with the program. The ugly fact of life in the feudal twenty-first century is that manners are a requirement for the peons. The deeper you are mired in peony, the more “civil” society demands you to be. The bosses, the wealthy, the “important” and popular, have carte blanche to shit on ANYONE they want, in any manner they choose. This, of course, flows down the societal hill, as we all strike back at the indignities we suffer at our “betters” by directing our wounded ire DOWNWARD. Anybody who works in a service industry knows this, and has experienced the growing nastiness over the past several years as the theocrats and free-market fundamentalists have risen ascendent.
I saw FUCK THAT. I say we redirect our anger where it belongs: at the feudal lords and their ecclesiastical enablers, and especially at the Democratic party courtiers in the House, Senate and consultocracy.
There is an interesting examination of cursing in the NY Times this week, in a piece entitled Almost Before We Spoke, We Swore. Cursing is, of course, only one aspect of civility, but it’s a good starting point.
researchers who study the evolution of language and the psychology of swearing say that they have no idea what mystic model of linguistic gentility the critics might have in mind. Cursing, they say, is a human universal. Every language, dialect or patois ever studied, living or dead, spoken by millions or by a small tribe, turns out to have its share of forbidden speech, some variant on comedian George Carlin’s famous list of the seven dirty words that are not supposed to be uttered on radio or television.
The swear word is just the most overt, agressive form of breaking societal demands for civility. Looking at cursing highlights what rules about civil behavior are rooted in: control. Control of behavior, of belief, of opportunity and of access to power. It is the powerful who determine what is “proper” after all, and it is the powerful that demand obeisance to their rules:
Researchers have also examined how words attain the status of forbidden speech and how the evolution of coarse language affects the smoother sheets of civil discourse stacked above it. They have found that what counts as taboo language in a given culture is often a mirror into that culture’s fears and fixations.
“In some cultures, swear words are drawn mainly from sex and bodily functions, whereas in others, they’re drawn mainly from the domain of religion,” Dr. Deutscher said.
In societies where the purity and honor of women is of paramount importance, he said, “it’s not surprising that many swear words are variations on the ‘son of a whore’ theme or refer graphically to the genitalia of the person’s mother or sisters.”
The very concept of a swear word or an oath originates from the profound importance that ancient cultures placed on swearing by the name of a god or gods. In ancient Babylon, swearing by the name of a god was meant to give absolute certainty against lying, Dr. Deutscher said, “and people believed that swearing falsely by a god would bring the terrible wrath of that god upon them.” A warning against any abuse of the sacred oath is reflected in the biblical commandment that one must not “take the Lord’s name in vain,” and even today courtroom witnesses swear on the Bible that they are telling the whole truth and nothing but.
Among Christians, the stricture against taking the Lord’s name in vain extended to casual allusions to God’s son or the son’s corporeal sufferings – no mention of the blood or the wounds or the body, and that goes for clever contractions, too. Nowadays, the phrase, “Oh, golly!” may be considered almost comically wholesome, but it was not always so. “Golly” is a compaction of “God’s body” and, thus, was once a profanity.
The article points out, using chimpanzee studies to make the point, that there is an irony in these attempts to control language … that cursing is often a way of someone wronged or powerless to let off steam. It is a deeply ingrained way to AVOID actual physical conflict. Of course, power and privilege being the intoxicants that they are, the demands to control language come anyway, because they also understand that cursing elicits physical and emotional responses in others HEARING the “foul” language, and they fear that this verbal disrespect will spread to ACTUAL disrespect, and perhaps even rebellion.
That is what this is all really about. Nothing is considered more uncivil than the person who refuses not only to follow the demanded rules of discourse, but moreso the person who refuses to follow the demands of practice. Protesters, say, like Cindy Sheehan:
Cindy Sheehan, the rising star of the anti-war movement, remembers when people used to think of her as one of those crazy activists, speaking out for a cause, inconveniencing all who stumbled onto her path. She remembers, from her days camped outside President Bush’s ranch in Texas, how some drivers would shout out at her, “Get a job!”
Her response was always the same. “I’d say to them, `I have a job,’ ” Sheehan explained Monday night at the last of her New York events, at the Cathedral Church of St. John the Divine. “I’d say, `It’s a full-time job, and it’s to hold George Bush accountable.’ ” With that, the 1200-strong crowd of peace activists, war veterans, ministers, and high-school students went wild.
All of the rules are about maintaining the status quo. Remember that. These are times that call for intemperate language. These are times to ruffle feathers, to say NO. If you can, if you have the will or the ability or the bravery, these are times to DROP OUT. This is the real affront that Mrs. Sheehan offers. She is, by her actions, amplified by those around her, saying loudly, “THERE ARE THINGS OF GREATER VALUE THAN BUSINESS, THAN MONEY, THAN MAINTAINING THE CURRENT CORRUPT SYSTEM.
I admire those like Mrs. Sheehan who translate words into physical action. Sadly, I’ve never been good at that, but I will offer my profane words, my support and approbation in support of their efforts. These are the times to curse, to question and to demand.
One last note: it will do little good to make our demands of the Dauphin and his cronies and enablers. His churchmen look at our cries as affirmations that they are doing God’s work. No, our greatest ire must be directed at those who claim to champion us. At the lickspittal minor lords and ladies of Democratic Party at court. They may not rule, but they sup at the tables of those who do. The enjoy the gold sprinkled about by the corrupt merchants who back the Dauphin. The are just fine with the complete disenfrancisement of the poor and of African Americans. Senator Biden himself, resplendent in the tailored garments purchased with the help of his patrons at MBNA, has made it clear that women’s rights are not a first priority for us.
My greatest contempt, my most colorful curses, will continue to be directed UPWARD at those traitorous Lords and Ladies of the Democratic Party who sell us out to maintain their minor fiefdoms courtesy of the rich and the corporations.
More on that to follow.
There’s also the need to control them because they do provide an outlet, which means you feel better, which means you can think rationally about ways to better your situation. Preventing people from swearing or expressing their anger at “their betters” encourages simmering resentment and general discontent and misery, which are the allies of those at the top.
I never was much for swearing. My daughter claims that I was so calm and peaceful about 7 years ago. The swearing isn’t as bad as it used to be and somedays it doesn’t even show up but if I didn’t swear right now I would turn into Kathleen Turner in Serial Mom.
Yes, I’m not usually much for swearing either. But I’ve found I use the term “dickhead” a lot in the past few years. It just says so much . . .
This was an outstanding diary. Words are just words and it is only people that give them power. Yeah, Cheney can tell someone to go fuck themselves but if a peon tells Cheney to do the same he is hauled off and given a citation. Hmph! What a wonderful nation of equality we live in huh?
i have always been a cusser and have tried to tame it down over the years. I haven’t been doing such a great job of that though this last year. Wonder why!
is like trying to eat an apple without teeth!
ROTFLMAO!!!! Ain’t that the flipping truth Tracey.Just read your diary and recommended. let’s get the ball rolling. There are a million freelance photogs out there. let’s tap one and start sending stuff to keith for Countdown. The proof is in the film. I hope those that are going to DC will be bringing video. Stills are great but I have a feeling a panning shot will be necessary to fit all those people showing up there. GD I wish I could be there. I am not too happy with the DFA here right now and got into it online with one gal that is “boycotting” the rally here and calling for others to do the same. She feels there are too many other “groups” other than just the End the War folks. And kept going on about Cindy wants this to be kept focused. I had to remind her(and you all know I love Cindy)that this rally on the 24th was planned way before Cindy went to Crawford. Funny, she hasn’t responded to that fact.
Your discussion of the origin of swear words reminded me of the things we swear on in court. For us, it’s the bible (by the way, what do atheists or other faiths swear on?). For the Romans it was, well, let’s just say that our words testimony and testicle come from the same Latin root. (Naturally, only men could “testify”).
from the Straight Dope:
I meant to add that it is a built in way to punish people for NOT being religious, or religious in a mainstream way. There is NO reason why the “affirm” version of the oath couldn’t be given to anybody.
I also imagine this is a problem for an orthodox Jew (isn’t there a rule against saying G_d’s name aloud?) or Jehovah’s Witnesses (same reason, I think).
Findlaw says:
This diary makes me think about my grandmother, who, in all fairness, was a tyrant. One of tools in her arsenal was control of people’s words, and I never really thought before about how abusive that really is, because when you limit someone’s language, you shackle their mind. I like to swear and always have. And it doesn’t matter how much shame is heaped upon me, I keep swearing. It’s part of my charm. I do worry a little that I will be spending a lot of time in parent-teacher conferences, in years to come. Children really are excellent mimics, aren’t they. So, yes, my daughter has picked up a few blue words from me, and my husband has taken me to task more than once for what comes out of her tiny little mouth. Yes, that’s right. My language is worse than my Marine husband’s.