Come on in!
Hey, shut the door.
You weren’t raised in a barn, you know (were you?).
You weren’t raised in a barn, you know (were you?).
This is an Unhosted Cafe.
Coffee & Tea under the window, platters of treats on every table
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Newspapers are in their regular spot next to the door
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Please recommend (and unrecommend the Cafe/Lounge from earlier)
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May the 4’s be with you
I want it to be light by now. I’m tired of dark mornings.
Morning Andi,
I don’t mind dark mornings. It’s the dark evenings that bother me. Gets dark right after work. I’m liking winter less and less as I think about those first warm days of spring and the return of green to the landscape.
As soon as it gets light in the early morning, I’ll be able to take my walks in the woods in the morning which makes my whole day seem to go better.
But more daylight all the way around would be great.
I want to be asleep, I am tired of snoring Newfs.
I’m not a pet person. We have a neurotic cat that was abused as a kitten so it tries my patience sometimes with it’s constant plaintive squeeling.
I have this Mother in law problem too……
This picture makes me think of how to solve my MIL problem. I could just put her out in that field to graze…;o)
I’m sure the Newfs would welcome her.
I agree. It’s so much easier to get up when it’s light out. Today, the alarm went off, and I decided everybody was probably still sick, so I just went back to sleep without even checking. And now it’s already after 8! Half my morning is over.
Good morning all.
Another crazy day waiting at the office – better get going.
Good Morning Everyone.
Coffee is still brewing…and this damn insomnia is back…4:20 am SF time…
The false spring is over, temperature dropped from mid-60’s yesterday to somewhere in the 40’s by sundown. Brrr….is that damn coffee cooked yet?
Coffee is ready SallyCat and I’ll bring you a cup. But, I have to keep from not looking at it.
The temptation, oh the temptation.
How’s that going? Are you trying tea as a substitute?
It’s going OK so far. I’m just sticking to water at the moment. But I do miss having all that caffeine induced energy in the morning. I used to think the morning was my most productive time of the day. Now I’m feeling like, I get this stuff done later.
It’s half / half (real/decaf) or I’d be wound up like a top most days by 7 am.
It’s not so bad being up early…I’m sorting stuff from my old desk drawers into the new desk. At least a quarter of the stuff is getting tossed out.
I’m in the same boat with getting rid of old paper and junk mail. I just haven’t been able to get myself to pull out the shredder and spend a half of a day doing it.
help me clean my living room when you’re done… 😉
Got a delivery coming today — new desk and lateral file — so I need to clear away the spot(s) the two items will be going, especially the area for the desk. Once they arrive, I’ll be busy furniture assembling, so I can get the new computer set up, then transfer programs/files from my iBook to the iMac; that’ll free up a ton of hard drive space on the former (got over 20GB of music files I’ll be moving!).
Okay, back to work, and to get the spouse stirring…
Cali I would be happy to help, but I’m practicing to become an old curmudgeon.
I noticed from the pictures above that George had a talk with management and got himself some help in the kitchen.
George is trying to keep everyone out of the kitchen. He wants to clean the plates all by himself. Of course I can’t tell anybody we didn’t wash the plate after George got through with them. But nobody seem to notice so far :).
Tom in the Glass Menagerie?
“I’ll rise but I won’t shine”
That fits my attitude to a T.
mine too
good morning
Good morning maryb. Were you tenacious yesterday?
I was.
Today I’m back to being a slacker.
LOL – That’s the maryb we’ve come to know.
and love and desire to emulate.
I got a little nervous until I saw the last two words
Slackers do not get nervous about anything — they just accept whatever comes their way.
Remember — U.S. men’s curling at 5:00 p.m. on CNBC.
Isn’t that in the slacker’s creed?
Will someone be live-blogging the curling? 🙂
I thought you were? You promised you would do it. Remember? Last weekend?
But I don’t have CNBC…
I bet Andi has cnbc …
too bad andi is a slacker
That’s actually good advice for the day that I’m going to have today. I’ll try to remember it.
for the Fedex man to get here with my new project on premature ejaculation…
What to do, what to do…
telling you to relax and just wait seems completely inappropriate
As usual with those types of situations, you will have to entertain yourself
Wasn’t that a movie?
The Fed Ex man always rings twice?
Or was that the milkman?
Around here, it’s
The Fedex Man Always Wears Shorts
Did you get your new flatscreen?
yes and no
It’s still wrapped up and down in my son’s room.
I hate bad news but my B’day got ruined by less and less signuficant other last night and I was in such an F’ed up mood after that that I told the kids, and son’s girlfriend that I wasn’t in the mood for blowing out candles and opening gifts. They’re disappointed. I’m disappointed. But I have to wait now for better timing based on someone else’s ability to act in a proper way. At least I had many warm wishes from here and VB. That blew me away. But you froggy people are good at that ;o)
Bummer
I’m sorry, super.
(((((Supersoling)))))
I am so sorry your bday evening was not the fabulous evening it should have been. I am sending great big cyber hugs your way.
This made me feel butterflies in my stomach. I don’t know the significance of “less and less significant other” but it reminds me of the period of time when my ex and I were in the final throes of an awful marriage and looking for a way to afford to split up. It was such a tense time, knowing that it was over but being forced to live together anyway. It exposed him (and maybe me) as a completely different person to me, a stranger with these feelings of something akin to hatred towards me that he couldn’t hide. I was afraid of him then and would get nauseous when I heard his car in the driveway. To this day I cannot hear his voice. We haven’t spoken in 6 years.
Are you saying that I remind you of you ex husband and that you hear hatred in my words?
No, not at all. Probably the opposite. I feel for you that you are living with someone who used to feel like your significant other and now might feel like the enemy. I’m projecting – sorry.
At this point I can describe her as minimally significant significant other and my situation is now similar to what yours was. Living out the last days of an awful and doomed marriage after years and years of trying, hoping, ignoring, swallowing pride and self respect and more than one separation in which I was the custodial parent by law. Still am actually.
I’ve been really reluctant to express this here but oh well.
Just a hint about the last 20 years of my life. In order to fully explain it I would have to get out the DSM book and explain more than one mental disorder diagnosis and how this family has endured more than a few hospitalizations.
Though sometimes I feel something close to hatred, it’s impossible to fully go there when you’re dealing with a person that is not fully responsible for their actions and who is ill. Hard to hate someone who is ill. She is also a victim of some pretty horrendous things as a child that I didn’t initially know about.
I don’t know why I’m explaining all of this really but there it is.
I’m sorry and I wish more peaceful days ahead for all of you. [[[[hug]]]]
Thanks, me too.
sending warm thoughts of love and healing to all. No judgement just support or an ear to bend if you need it.
Thanks, I’ll keep your ear in mind ;o)
I’m sorry. You spoke out here because you’re amongst people who care. I had a “moment” in one of Tracy’s diaries where I let a BIG CAT out the bag.
there is nothing in your life that would make me not care for you less. I may not have any answers, in fact I probably don’t, but I do have ears, a heart and great big dimples and huggage.
All I can say is that honesty is the best way for everyone in the long run. It hurts, but it creates fewer “emotional hostages”.
Reminds me of a description of an activist I heard somewhere…
I’m a Warrior for Peace, and not a gentle man.
I’m not so gentle :o)
I got your message and will call soon.
It was nice to hear your voice again :o)
You know the telephone number…anytime…any reason…
My heart hurts for you not getting to celebrate your birthday as a super special occasion. Big hug and we’ll just keep celebrating a few days longer here.
Thoughts on the Significant other….
I’ll be sympathetic to that halfway….my ex was ultimately diagnosed as manic depressive and refused to even consider getting help until years after the marriage was over. The last 3 years of my marriage were trying to find ways to avoid him in a 2 1/2 room apartment. I learned to love going to work on opposite schedules to his.
begin rant
Childhood stuff….”because of my childhood” is a crock of shit. We can stay our childhoods or we can grow out of them or as Diane and Shirl would advise: re-write them. Lots of us had tough childhoods – and became different, better people because of them.
My rant…my story…and the comments are important.
And there is much, much more to the story than is in that diary….
end of rant
So – back to this Wednesday morning – you are loved by many people and we’re here…and at the Village. You have wonderful children and friends…celebrate with them tonight…take them balloons and hug them all…and ignore the significant other.
She can play nice or go to her room…or you can be the victim. ok so apparently I wasn’t done ranting!
Thanks and I’ll only disagree with one thing that you said.
There’s a difference between having an F’ed up childhood and being sexually assaulted by the man you would find out later really wasn’t your Father afterall. To live with that from 10 – 13 yrs. old is beyond my ability to comprehend let alone know whether I myself could survive something like that. She did survive it but with many nasty survival tools that tend to hurt the ones who care the most.
I should have been more clear about her childhood. You can see what a difficult line I have to walk there. I’ve been trapped here for so long, mainly because I’ve felt guilty about abandoning a person who has been abandoned her whole life.
That’s as far as I can go with this conversation for now.
I appreciate all you’ve done.
…and if it’s ok, I’d just as soon let the birthday go now :o)
To turn your own father in to the police rather than be raped by him at age 14 is what is not in my diary. He had already raped my older sister and she ran away from home. And is healthy and normal and as whacky as me now…btw
So here’s some of what is and isn’t there…
-To have him shoot himself because of the police knocking on the door is in that diary. And then be blamed for his death by all the family members and church people.
-To be sexually molested from age 8-14 is not in that diary. To literally be threatened with death if I told.
-To turn into an angry and vicious teenager that made life a living hell for my mom from age 14-18 is not in that diary.
-To use sex with random partners from age 17-19 as an alternative life and way of finding love is not in that diary.
-To have my ex-husband beat through a door in a violent fit the night we split up. Not in that diary.
-To have my ex-husband pull a gun and fire it the night we split up. Required a restraining order with threat of jail for the gun violation to keep him away.
-To have my ex-husband call and start stalking me after 11 years of divorce.
-To have my ex-husband commit suicide the day the restraining order was reinstated. No I don’t feel guilty. He had just been released from a psychiatric hospital and they knew he had guns at home.
Sorry…there are lots of us that survived a lot…don’t let’s see who is the bigger victim story here…not healthy.
I guess I’ll give up saying end of rant…this is very deep and personal to a lot of us. There are 197 comments in that diary I linked to…and dozens have stories as deep as what I’ve outlined above. A dozen or so emailed me directly after that diary to tell me more about their stories. And they are all no longer victims. We are more than survivors. We are loving and functioning adults.
So….I’ll back off….I’m still here as your friend and love who you are. Topic is closed until you bring it up….
Wow, Sallycat. No wonder you keep posting those peaceful pictures of yours. You are awesome and strong and you inspire me.
Thank you SN
The simplest and most profound lesson that I learned in the past 35+ years…is to simply love.
There is pain, there is anger, and there are the usual insecurities of being human.
Each time we take time to remember to love ourselves and respect ourselves we are stronger. Each time we let the love of others into our lives we are stronger and more loving in return.
Such a simple lesson…and just as simple to live…
Blessed Be
It was not my intention to get my measuring stick out and see who is the bigger victim. My wife’s experience is very similar to yours execpt that her Father didn’t commit suicide. Her Mother never believed her and she is still to this day, blamed for many of the inter-family problems. In telling a little about her, I wasn’t seeking to absolve her of her responsibilities. There is always someone out there who’s story is more horrifying. I suspect that you are an exceptional person regarding your success in outliving your past. That doesn’t change the very real fact that many don’t. Many commit suicide themselves as you well know. That doesn’t make them weak. It makes them tragic.
At the very least I’m hoping you understand the difficult position I’ve been in. I damn sure didn’t mean to play victim here myself. That is why I’ve been so reluctant to express this at all. Let alone here.
The fact that you’ve thrived, as many others have, doesn’t lesson the suffering that my wife endures. She’s not reached the place you have. She might never reach that place. But there is no measurement to be made here at all.
As I said, I appreciate all you’ve done Sally.
This has actually been one of my better birthdays because of you.
Thank you
Maybe I am being too hard on mothers, but I hope there is a special place in hell for those that don’t believe their daughter when she says she’s been abused…or who choose the man over the daughter. That is unforgiveable in my eyes. What a betrayal of all that a mother is supposed to be.
Been there, done that too. My version of the car in the driveway = rattling ladder rack on the truck.
Super, I’m sorry for what you’re going through.
Based on Cabin Girl’s description, that first ring shouldn’t really count so I don’t know if it’s fair to say he rings twice.
Goodbye cruel cafe
I’m off to work
Enjoy and slack when possible.
Morning all. Enjoying a mug of java while the Diva Dogs get settled for their morning nap after breakfast. LOL The little one is Bette after Miss Midler of course and the large on is Reba after Reba Mcintyre
Beautiful dogs. I bet the small one is the boss.
Thank you and you would be correct!!!! She is the boss until she has made the bigger one really mad and then she backs off for two seconds. LOL The Diva Dogs are my babies and spoiled rotten!!!!
What cuties. My pack wants to know if they can come over to
play.
Now I better go join maryb in work-lurk mode.
LOL believe it or not mine are so spoiled they have a doggy bed in the back yard also. LOL but I am sure they would love to come sleep…. I mean play.
It sums up the perfect life…outdoors, nap attacks when needed….
Who was that said they were ‘dumb animals’? I really want to be that dumb!
I couldn’t agree more. LOL
I’ve got to get the day start also.
Everybody have a good day in the pond.
Can any of our Spanish speakers translate this for me. My Spanish is not so good.
rough translation from babel fish:
The Department of Justice of the United States has notified to the Ministry of Justice that it rejects to execute the judicial aid asked for by the judge of the National Hearing Santiago Pedraz in the investigation of the murder of the camera of the television network Tele 5 Jose Couso, happened in the attack the Palestine Hotel, in Bagdad, the 8 of April of 2003. The magistrate tried to interrogate like imputed the three American military: sergeant Thomas Gibson, the captain Philip Wolford and the lieutenant colonel Philip de Camp, by its participation in the facts. But the American authorities reject the request to consider that the Central Commando of the United States already investigated the facts and concluded that a tank of the company Alpha, of regiment 4-64, fired against a team of snipers and who was a just and provided answer, agreed with the rules of the war. The lawyer Leopoldo Towers, in name of the widow of Jose Couso, considers the “obstruction to the justice of the American authorities inadmissible, with breach of his international commitments”, and has protested to the magistrate who reiterates the commissions rogatorias until they are executed.
Interestingly, the Democrats, beginning with Barney Frank, are jumping all over growing economic inequality — the economy in aggregate is ok, but many ordinary Americans are worse off. Is this a precursor of a campaign theme?
imo that was the best part of John Edwards’ campaign, that whole Two Americas thing he was doing. That resonated with a lot of non-partisan people who don’t usually get into following politics like all of us wonkier types.
It should be. As always the rich get richer, the poor get poorer and the middle class are heading towards being poor or so it seems to me.
(back in a minute)
Well????
What have you learned so far?
How do you propose to carry out this research? Will it be premature ejaculation speculation? Or will it involve more hands on research?
Sorry for that. I’m so bad ;o)
Funny to how you mentioned you’de be back in a minute as the Fed Ex guy is at the door. In his shorts no less.
I guess my questions are answered ;o)
~Cheney violated not only the Cardinal Rule of Bird Hunting, but since he is a cyborg, the First Law of Robotics:
“A robot may not injure a human being, or, through inaction, allow a human being to come to harm.”
The penalty is disassembly. But since Cheney is an expert at dissembling, there may be a conflict of directives introduced here that only Captain Kirk could resolve…~
Made me laugh 🙂
Here is something interesting from the Philanthropy News Digest… For anyone who is paying off their school loans Fannie Mae is probably a household name. Nice to think the interest off our school loans are helping to finance crooked Repuglican lobbyists!
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Senate Committee Investigates Contributions From Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac (2/10/06)
The Senate Finance Committee (http://finance.senate.gov/) has begun an investigation into whether Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac abused the tax-exempt status of their foundations to circumvent campaign finance and lobbying laws, Dow Jones Newswires reports.
The committee is looking at whether executives of the federally chartered companies have used their charitable foundations to expand their access to key members of Congress. The move builds on the committee’s investigation of several charities tied to discredited lobbyist Jack Abramoff, who recently pleaded guilty to bribery and other criminal charges in a broader public corruption probe. Spokesmen for Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac said their organizations weren’t aware of the committee’s investi-gation; both declined further comment.
Fannie Mae has dramatically overhauled its lobbying practices since last August, when the Department of Housing and Urban Development informed its CEO that the company had improperly used regional partnership offices to lobby Congress. Fannie Mae’s nonprofit arm, the Fannie Mae Foundation, has also drawn increased scrutiny from regulators for grants made to charities closely aligned with key Congressional lawmakers. Public records show the Freddie Mac Foundation also has made sizable donations to several charities directly linked to members of Congress.
“I’m concerned that we’re seeing more and more charities used in the best interests of lobbyists, not of the public,” said Senate Finance Committee chairman Charles Grassley (R-IA). “Recent reports about Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac and their charitable foundations have raised serious questions.”
“Senate Finance Panel Probes GSE Charities.”
Dow Jones Newswires 2/07/06.
This would be a perfect item to post in the New Bucket. It doesn’t matter if you put it both places.
Thanks, good tip!
I’m thinking of diarizing… I am so freaking ANGRY.. shaking anger at this Republemcrat Jim M.
Reproblemcrat??
Another Hero Sydrome – he asctually said he helped with rape clinics/domestic violence clinics “before they were fashionable” EXCUSE me I din’t know they were every fucking trendy. And I didn’t think that because he was a Knight in Shining Armor that gave him the right to decide over the bodies and medical decisions of women.
Raped by a man and Jimbo is there to help you… yet he as a man can rape your human rights???
Fuck this “I’m a Democrat” shit.
And and Boston Joe! He doesn’t want your nor my support. Oh gee, I’m crushed.
Sorry!!! Wrong window!
Give FroggyBottom a moment. She’s looking for a photo 🙂
We have a new person (Izzy) doing a cafe today. She said she put it up between noon and one. So hold off a little bit and I’ll email her to make sure all is well.
oh oh. I’m sorry, I didn’t know. Sheeeet.
It’s my fault and it’s okay. I should have thought about doing an announcement — now you know why I don’t volunteer to run things.
I’m here!
Never mind. We’ll let her do the evening or late afternoon one.
You are a champ for opening up the cafe. Thanks!
oops. I missed it by that much! I’m so sorry — I’m a late riser. But, hey, things will be hoppin’ tonight!
No problem. I’m sorry I didn’t think to coordinate this.
or “birth announcement” however you want to see it.
Thirteen years of “hard labor” (don’t get me started….) have gone into this….and I am sitting here actually with tears running down my face…because it is so hard to believe that it is de facto a “live birth”.
See: Last Living Words: The Ingeborg Bachmann Reader
(What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight, BUILD ANYWAY, Build anyway……–the Roches)
“they” tried to destroy it, really, they did: but ‘they’ did not succeed.
U-fucking-WHO! 🙂
[New Cafe Just Around the Corner http://www2.boomantribune.com/?op=displaystory;sid=2006/2/15/125337/768%5D
New Cafe Opened
I am so sorry Izzy! I didn’t know. I’ll share my chocolates with you 🙂